Breaking out of a rut - The Style Idealist

Helloooo there my dears *Mrs Doubtfire voice*.

Let’s get straight to it and delve into my current state of mind/the reason for this blog post, shall we?

I seem to be struggling lately. Struggling in a rotten, little rut to be exact.

You see things start off the same every week for me. Monday comes, I’m full of ideas, buzzing with inspiration and ready to bash out pages of banging content for you all to read. But when I sit down at my desk ready to write, I’m unable to produce the goods. I fall short and convince myself that I’m unable to finish a project, so I’ll just do it another time. Except I don’t – Friday comes around and I’m left with guilt for wasting time because I haven’t done anything that I was supposed to do.

The trouble with being in a rut, is that it feels like quicksand; the more you try to take yourself out of it, the harder it is to escape. I go from hamster-wheel brain, going around in circles thinking of all the unfinished tasks piling up. To sloth-like tendencies where I just want to hop off the spinning wheel and take one big ol’ nap because I’m so overwhelmed.

I guess it all comes down to my insecurities. Me being classic me, I constantly second guess myself and listen to that negative voice telling me that things will never change. So why try?

My rut seems to center around Digras not feeling lost but more so behind.

I want to achieve so many goals with my blog, my personal life and my career that I get stuck dwelling on all the things I haven’t accomplished yet and give up before I’ve even started.

But how do you muster the courage to get yourself going again?

Well I’m not a therapist or a mind well-being specialist but I do know that Lier intuition is REAL. And when you feel like something isn’t right then 9/10 it isn’t. When you feel uninspired, unmotivated or generally not feeling yourself, that’s your intuition telling you that change is needed.

Whether it’s a new book, a new gym class or a new TV show to binge-watch (in my case Westworld – SO good) acknowledge that it’s time for a change from your regular routine.

Challenge your intuition and have a conversation with it. What do you enjoy? What puts a smile on your face? What makes you feel passionate & excited? What makes you feel relaxed? Where can you go to hold a puppy? All the important life questions basically.

It’s important to understand that you’re not the victim and it’s not you against the world. Sometimes I focus on talking down to myself so much that I forget to be my own best friend and be kinder. It’s OK to indulge in self-gratitude and look back at how far you’ve come however small or big the steps may be.

Instead of focusing on big dreams I want to focus on little victories. I’m over trying to solve every issue I have and ready to prioritise re-connecting with myself and my passions. If that means playing 3LW- No More and singing until my heart’s content so be it.

My blog really is my safe-haven and there’s some so fulfilling about having something that’s my own. It’s gives meaning to my day to be able to create content that I’m passionate about and if I continue maybe it could lead to new opportunities. And if it doesn’t that’s OK too because it just means there’s a different path for me.

But finally, stop listening to that negative voice inside of you because the devil is a liar. You can do anything you put your mind to, so get your mind right.